On this week’s Time Magazine cover. The mother – Jamie Lynne Grummet, a 26 year old mother of two – is a proponent of attachment parenting. She breast feeds her biological son, who is almost four, and her adopted son, 5, who she feels compelled to point out is of a different race. She posts pictures of this on her blog, I am not the babysitter. and catagorically isn’t doing any of this – the Time stuff – for attention, ooops ::::
A provocative cover on the latest Time magazine has whipped up a storm of controversy about so-called attachment parenting. The image shows a rather attractive young mother, fully clothed and looking at the camera while her three-year-old son stands on a chair suckling her breast. The image has stirred a new debate on attachment parenting, which is provoking strong reactions.
Attachment parenting is based on the idea that babies develop a strong emotional bond and feel more secure the more they are held. The approach includes using baby slings, sharing beds with young children and breastfeeding – sometimes through toddler-hood.
Paediatrician Dr William Sears started the movement 20 years ago.
The premise is pretty straight forward: Attachment parenting is a style of caring for your infant that brings out the best in the baby and the best in the parents. Attachment parenting implies first opening your mind and heart to the individual needs of your baby, and eventually you will develop the wisdom on how to make on-the-spot decisions on what works best for both you and your baby.
The 7 B’s of Attachment Parenting
A close attachment after birth and beyond allows the natural, biological attachment-promoting behaviors of the infant and the intuitive, biological, caregiving qualities of the mother to come together. Both members of this biological pair get off to the right start at a time when the infant is most needy and the mother is most ready to nurture. Bonding is a series of steps in your lifelong growing together with your child. says askdrsears.com
Dr Sears says “I’ve never yet seen an attachment parenting baby who’s become a school bully”
The controversial cover girl Jamie Grumet, says she knew exactly what she was getting into when she posed for the Time cover. Ms Grumet says there are a lot of myths that surround attachment parenting.
“I think a lot of people say you can’t really be intimate with your husbands if you’re co-sleeping and those are kind of myths,” Ms Grumet said.
Mayim Bialik is the actress who played the character Blossom in the nineties sitcom of the same name, Bialik now takes life a little more seriously and has a PhD in neuroscience, she wrote the parenting book, Beyond The Sling.
Bialik supports attachment parenting and still breastfeeds her three-year-old.
“It’s things like this that will turn people off, but attachment parenting is a decision people make that absolutely is biologically supported,” Bialik told ABC radio. ”It’s not a new style of parenting, it’s the way mammals and primates parent, period.”
She says there is nothing strange about breastfeeding toddlers.
“When my son breastfeeds now we curl up in a chair and we look at each other and he looks like the embodiment of comfort and love and security,” she said. ”There is almost no tantrum that I have not been able to soothe and calm down by holding my child in my arms and by breastfeeding them. That’s what it looks like; it’s loving and it’s beautiful and there’s nothing creepy or weird about it.”
But other American mothers are not convinced. Mother of five Jennifer Levinson cannot imagine breastfeeding any longer than absolutely necessary.
“My approach to parenting is surviving. Making it through every day with nobody hurt and everybody fed; maybe bathed if we’re lucky,” she said.
Time says the very debate is proof the cover did its job.
Favorite Quote From the ABC audio file: “…when the an walk and talk, they can go to the refrigerator”